coping with regrets!

I have very few regrets in my life. But somehow, I am thankful for these regrets coz I’m pretty pleased to be where I am today. I think that the more regrets one has, the more one starts to believe that life could be better. Maybe that’s true. Coz after all, isn’t it a sequence of events that brings us to where we are today? And if one of those links is replaced by a different link…its linkage compatibility with the following links changes the entire structure of the chain. That’s why I put down the “Random Thoughts” post a few days back. If we make one incorrect choice/decision do we run the risk of altering our future life in a bad way? And I am talking about important decisions…not stupid ones like choosing a quarter pounder over a big mac! Which reminds me (lemme drift off for a bit!)…when I went out shopping as a kid…I would almost always narrow my selection down to 2 pairs of jeans or 2 pairs of shoes or 2 books I wanted to read or 2 items of food. I used to hope that I would get lucky and my folks would end up buying both for me. But that rarely happened. And when I did end up buying one of the articles, I would spend day after day thinking about how the other one would have been much better! I guess that’s human tendency…at least its what I tended to do. But the question remains…what about regrets. Should we let them affect us? I mean, after all “learning from a mistake” is also a form of regret! It’s easy to tell someone to leave the past behind…but I am being more human…and accepting the fact that it’s not that easy. In time, yes, one moves on…but what about the time span between the event and the “in time” time? My biggest regrets in life have more to do with the way I treated people as opposed to making a wrong decision. And ironically, it’s this category of regrets that just doesn’t stop chasing you…unless you break contact with the concerned people all together! But escapism rarely helps…except when you have been jailed!
So, what is the right way to deal with a regret? I’m looking for something other than “learn from it and avoid doing such a thing in the future!”. What is the answer?? Think…ummm…My point of view (remember, this is MY blog!) is that you should keep the regret very close to you. When I do so, it keeps me humble, aware, kind, perceptive….human! A regret should be filed under the experience category. And one should keep ample room for regrets….one should look forward to doing something regretful (but not go around actually doing something wrong!)…so that when it comes, she/he is not in denial. We make mistakes! Period! We make wrong decisions!! You can’t sue anyone for doing something/not doing something as long as it is in the realm of legitimacy. So, one should make use of the freedom of choice knowing that the odds of it working out to the odds of it not working out are 1:1. Consequences are not in our hands! But if something feels right (to the head, not the heart!)…I’ll do it! And if you disagree you can go ahead and BITE ME!!!